Real Housewives Of Atlanta

Kandi: Watching This Episode Irritated Me

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Bravotv.com: Did you and Todd ever finish your pros and cons list?
Kandi Burruss: No, we didn’t.

Bravotv.com: Why did you get so emotional with Phaedra?
KB: I had a lot going on at the time. Yes, I was upset about my play being cancelled, but I also had some personal family things that I was dealing with as well. So I guess I was just extra emotional. It probably wasn’t the best time to go talk to her, but I was wondering what was going on with our friendship that she had to discuss it with NeNe and Porsha without ever mentioning to me that there was a problem. Watching this episode, it irritated me to see Phaedra try to brush off what was going on with me by saying that I was just upset about a bad business deal. I wasn’t upset about the money. There was a whole bunch of stuff that was going on with me that she didn’t take the time to ask about either. And now just because I didn’t text her every day, I’m a bad friend.

Bravotv.com: Did you feel like you resolved your issues?
KB: I don’t know if they’re resolved or not. Obviously she doesn’t tell me when there is a problem. I guess only NeNe or Porsha knows. Or I’ll find out while watching the show. I just find it so crazy that she was confiding in them about how I’m not a good friend… Had the shoe been on the other foot, I would never have discussed our friendship with them before talking to her about it.

Bravotv.com: What was going through your mind during the therapy session?
KB: I was thinking, “Why am I here?” Most of the conversation was about the problems between NeNe and somebody: NeNe and Kenya, NeNe and Claudia, NeNe and Cynthia… I didn’t want to be in that discussion. NeNe never feels that she is wrong, and if you tell her that she is or if you don’t agree with her, then she’s going to have a problem with you. I didn’t even want to say my opinion. I hate that Dr. Jeff even asked me to say anything.

Bravotv.com: Were you surprised that NeNe walked out?
KB: Yes and no. Yes, because she put the counseling session together, and no, because she loves to give a dramatic exit.

Via: Bravo

  • Tia

    I thought Phaedra was being totally unfair as a friend. You two have been real friends before RHOA and she should have come to you first. I said you were probably going through something . The phone works two ways if she felt bad that you didn’t call her .. She should have picked up the phone and talk to you… I hope you two work this out.. RHOA shouldn’t interfere with real friends.. When the cameras stop rolling.. your real friends are there not the ones you filmed with .

    • Ladelle Woods

      KANDI is wrong. Remember when everyone found out that APOLLO lied on Kenya. KANDI goes to console Kenya. BUT her BFF Phaedra’s husband shows up at Kandi’s house with texts, and Kandi does not call or text Phaedra, who is hiding from this MONSTER, threatening to burn the house down and terrorizing her. YOUR HUSBAND IS TAKING UP FOR HIM, Kandi. YOU WERE SUPPOSE TO CALL Phaedra. She did not know about the texts. AND as far as her talking to Porsha or Nene, they are the people checking her. SHE can respond to them. You are not calling or texting. PEOPLE ARE NOT STUPID KANDI. If you are not calling or texting and Apollo is coming around with lies, Phaedra is on your mind. SO WHY DID YOU BACK OFF. Stop lying kandi

      • Terry Smith

        how is kandi wrong? She is a good friend to phaedra, when she was asked about the text she denied it because she dont want no body in phaedras business. Kandi have alot going on in her life too…yes she could have checked up more on her friend but shit happens n she going through hers too. Just like any relationship it takes two to make it work. I understand that phaedra is going through alot and need her friend but she could have call her too.

      • Terry Smith

        how is kandi wrong? She is a good friend to phaedra, when she was asked about the text she denied it because she dont want no body in phaedras business. Kandi have alot going on in her life too…yes she could have checked up more on her friend but shit happens n she going through hers too. Just like any relationship it takes two to make it work. I understand that phaedra is going through alot and need her friend but she could have call her too.

        • LadyV

          Please rewatch because even Kandi admitted to Nene that she didn’t know what was going on with Phadrea, because Phadrea didn’t call her. Sooooo I really do have to disagree with. She didn’t even know that Apollo was threatening Phadrea until she pop up and office with that imma cry cause I know I’m wrong, the same she does to her husband all the time.

  • Moe

    NeNe put the therapy session together but doesn’t want to admit the fact that she is the common denominator. You have to start with yourself if you want things to change.

    • Ladelle Woods

      KANDI is wrong. Remember when everyone found out that APOLLO lied on Kenya. KANDI goes to console Kenya. BUT her BFF Phaedra’s husband shows up at Kandi’s house with texts, and Kandi does not call or text Phaedra, who is hiding from this MONSTER, threatening to burn the house down and terrorizing her. YOUR HUSBAND IS TAKING UP FOR HIM, Kandi. YOU WERE SUPPOSE TO CALL Phaedra. She did not know about the texts. AND as far as her talking to Porsha or Nene, they are the people checking her. SHE can respond to them. You are not calling or texting. PEOPLE ARE NOT STUPID KANDI. If you are not calling or texting and Apollo is coming around with lies, Phaedra is on your mind. SO WHY DID YOU BACK OFF. Stop lying kandi.

      • Kaye

        You’re correct Ladelle,

        Kandi was so easy to comfort Kenya over some bull, yet your her friend Phaedra is going through one of the GREATEST trials of her life and you can’t put a phone call through. Tell us Kandi, who was Phaedra suppose to turn to? I don’t recall Kandi coming to Phaedra’s defense during this entire fiasco with Apollo. I also feel Kandi was influenced by Todd because he was Apollo’s friend and turned her back on her friend.

        • Debstoy624

          I think Kandi being Kandi didn’t feel the need to call Phaedra with that, because it was mess. Apollo’s been looking for sympathy ever since he got busted. And she chose not to feed his fire and why would she bring that mess to Phaedra.

          • Kaye

            Its not about sharing gossip. Apollo was making threats. I would expect my best friend to give me the heads up, simply because I don’t like to be blindsided.

          • Kaye

            Also, Phaedra’s situation is not just about her…she has children and you safeguard children at all cost. Damn not wanting to get involve.

          • me

            Phaedra knew what her husband were doing it was good to her until he got caught. Listen to her friend Angela story

          • Kaye

            I heard the story. If it was a drop of truth to Apollo would’ve destroyed Phaedra with it. He has no regards to anyone and than includes his children, his wife, and his own freedom. So if he could have hurt Phaedra, he would have spilled it. Furthermore, its not about the welfare or the safeguarding of Phaedra or Apollo it is about those two baby boys.

          • Regina Dickson

            8I HEARD THAT’S WHY THE JUDGE DIDN’T PURSUE CHARGES AGAINST HER BECAUSE OF THE BOYS. SHE’S BLESSED HER MOTHER PRAYS.

          • Regina Dickson

            ALRIGHT. LET THE TRUTH BE KNOWN.

          • Regina Dickson

            GOOD ANSWER. SOME PEOPLE DON’T THINK THEY JUST ANSWER OUT OF EMOTIONS.

        • Regina Dickson

          KANDI KNOWS PHAEDRA WELL AND KNOWS SHE PROBABLY WAS AS GUILTY AS APOLLO.

      • Blu Smith

        Look Kandi is not a liar, Kandi hides from from issues that is uncomforable to her this is why she is going to counseling herself!! Kandi dont want to pick or choose to agree with especially if it has to do with family and close friends, she dont like drama..Kandi is in counseling now learning how to deal with issues instead or not dealing with them.

        • LadyV

          Please tell me how she doesn’t like drama, but she often starts some bs in the slick way?……

        • Regina Dickson

          YOU’RE A VERY WISE PERSON

      • Kenya

        Ok I get what the both of you are saying but Pheadrea was wrong for not bringing it to Kandi. They both need to act like the adult women that they are. It shouldn’t be about well she did this to me so we can’t be friends. If they are truly friends they’ll work it out and keep others out of their friendship. And Apollo is Todd’s friend not Kandi. So would that have been ok for Kandi to call Pheadra when Apollo was talking with Todd not Kandi? Then she would be wrong because that should between her and her husband. Kandi got her own issues with in her own marriage. Hell Pheadra didn’t seem to care to s**** about that. People fall short they are not always going to do what you think they should do. You don’t know what Kandi’s state of mind was or is. Ijs

        • Nakela Prude

          I agree! They are BOTH wrong in this, they really need to sit down and talk it out w/o having others in their business. Phaedra was wrong for disregarding her issues and a tad bit selfish and Kandi was also wrong only in the area of not checking up on her BFF. BUT just as she said she had her own stuff going on as well, you really can’t knock her for that. Friends will go through these bumps and bruises but as friends they should be able to withstand it all. This too shall pass!

          • Regina Dickson

            BEAUTIFUL ANSWER

          • Regina Dickson

            BEAUTIFUL ANSWER

          • Regina Dickson

            BEAUTIFUL ANSWER

        • VoiceofReason

          Not agreeing with you there and this is why. Kandi should have told Phaedra because Todd specifically told Peter that Kandi was there (not that Todd told Kandi) when Apollo showed up with the text messages. Now, on the other hand, Cynthia’s messy butt confided to others and tried to embarrass Phaedra about the texts what HER HUSBAND CONFIDED to her. The difference here is that Kandi was a party to the conversation about the alleged affair, she didn’t get that information second hand. And, although I would honor my husband, I am going to look out for my friend. Particularly when this dude acting all erratic about going to jail. Even staying “neutral” you have picked a side. It appears that she was more loyal to Apollo than Phaedra.

          • Lori Carnahan

            Everyone miss the episode when the “southern belle” was exposed when it was revealed that Phaedra was sleeping on an air mattress sneaking around with Apollo? Her CLIENT! That is so far from proper and ethical. Conflict of interest. And then she couldn’t “remember ” her due date. BS!!!!! If her ethics can dip so low what makes “Mr. Chocolate” story so hard to believe. Not to mention her morals with “Mr. Rediculous”. Kandi has her plate full. Phaedra made her air mattress….now let her lie in it. God bless you Kandi Buruss

          • VoiceofReason

            She wasn’t sneaking with him, she was seeing him. Yes, she visited him in the hood and was sleeping on an air mattress with him. He was not her client. Which shows she accepted him as he was and I believe her when she says she believed he was a changed man. Women will tend to “work with you” because we always operate on the potential instead of dealing with the reality and that is how we get disappointed every time. Yes, Phaedra must lie in the bed she made, we all must when it comes to making bad decisions about men. She did have a sense of shame, based on how she was raised as a preacher’s kid and how people like to throw that up in your face, as if she’s somewhere above humanity and above getting “caught up” like regular people every day with a pregnancy. She married Apollo because she loved him and because she was having his baby. The date of the conception and wedding is what caused her to “forget” her due date because of what people will say. People will talk either way and what they do not know, they will make up. Phaedra will be all right, trust that. Luckily for her, she is very, very smart in all other respects and I am sure when she embarks on her next relationship, she will be much wiser about her choices. That’s what our life experiences are supposed to do, give us wisdom. She’s learned her lesson and I hope a lot of other women have too when picking up these jailbirds and petty criminals, no matter how fine they are.

          • joanne hester

            Yea I remember the statements. Apollo made them, I don’t how accurate they are seeing how he likes to lie. Never the less Phaedra fell in love with this guy had faith in him and had two children. I have watched Apollo change and dis respect Phaedra the last two season he was horrible.Another thing I like to say Kandi is human like the rest, she can be wrong it doesn’t mean she a bad person. It just means she made a mistake.

          • Regina Dickson

            AMEN. TELL IT LIKE IT TIS.

          • Regina Dickson

            PHAEDRA REFUSE TO TAKE KANDI’S ADVICE AND APOLOGIZE TO KENYA. MAYBE SHE FELT LIKE HER OPINION OR ADVISE WAS NOT APPRECIATED OR RESPECT.

        • Shay

          Thank You Well Said And True

        • Regina Dickson

          BRAVO PERFECT CONCLUSION.

      • sanoa Dee

        The only reason why she well she really didn’t want to console her, she just felt bad that she also thought she was a hoe because of what Apollo said. But people go thru their things in life and I’m pretty sure she didn’t want to take it there by telling Pheadra that, cause her views didn’t change on their friendship. If you haven’t heard from a friend. A real friend Will ask what’s been going on with you and etc. Phaedra was just expecting to be that friend that just listen about their problems. People are grown and I think it’s dumb that she didn’t reach out to Kandi first. Phaedra childish.,

        • Edna Hill

          Kandi….can you kinda relate now to Nene considering you both felt the same way about your friends (Cynthia & phadera) instead of coming to you to say something was wrong turned to the other ladies, that don’t really give 2 pennies about yall friendship

      • Vanessa

        Ladelle, I think Kandi handled the situation great. It is reality TV. If she was to go to Phaedra and say what Apollo told Todd, she would have been putting the business out there for all of America to see. Even though the conversation would have been between Phaedra and her, whether true or not, Phaedra would have been exposed by Kandi bringing it up on national TV. That was Apollo plan in the first place. Maybe he thought Kandi would run and say something, but being that she didn’t he went to Peter who goes and tell Cynthia, and it got out anyway.. Phaedra has always been one of my favorites, but I also feel right now with Apollo gone, she has no drama, she has no real story and to team up with Nene she will surely get burned. Nene and Porsha acting like they are concerned about Kandi and Phaedra’s friendship when they are not, because technically niether of those to have any true friends on the show. The two closest people are Phaedra and Kandi. If you ask me they are getting in the middle to split that friendship up.

        • Mitzi

          You said a mouth full ms lady. Now drop the mic,

      • Dana Mcmillian

        Oh shut up. You only see what they want you to see. You don’t know what kandi has done when the camera is off. Don’t you know they edit shit to make more drama for more ratings.

      • Peaches

        I agree with u

      • Peaches

        I agree with u

      • Nita

        I agree. Kandi likes to be neutral all too often because she doesn’t really like confrontation. Stop trying to play both sides of the fence. If that’s your girl then be down for your girl!

        • joanne hester

          I agree and making faces over situations is not a way to handle anything

      • MLS

        I agree with you Ms. Woods, I think Kandi is jealous of the friendship that NeNe and Porsha has with Phaedra. And Kandi stayed she was not choosing sides, but she has and it’s not team Phaedra.

      • Mitzi

        She Did the right thing, keping her mouth shut. She and Todd are still newlyweds and thats the only relationship she should be dealing with.

      • me

        Kandi did right to stay out of it people get killed been in marriage couple business

      • Lori Carnahan

        Everyone miss the episode when the “southern belle” was exposed when it was revealed that Phaedra was sleeping on an air mattress sneaking around with Apollo? Her CLIENT! That is so far from proper and ethical. Conflict of interest. And then she couldn’t “remember ” her due date. BS!!!!! If her ethics can dip so low what makes “Mr. Chocolate” story so hard to believe. Not to mention her morals with “Mr. Rediculous”. Kandi has her plate full. Phaedra made her air mattress….now let her lie in it. God bless you Kandi Buruss

      • Regina Dickson

        KENYA WAS CRUCIFIED BY PHAEDRA AND KANDI WAS DOWN WITH IT. SO SHE LIKE A DECENT PERSON WENT TO APOLOGIZE. THAT’S ALL. PHAEDRA WAS GUILTY. SO KANDI JUST STAYED OUT OF IT LIKE A GOOD FRIEND NOT TRASHING HER. SHE DID SUGGEST PHAEDRA APOLOGIZE TOO, BUT NENE STOPPED HER.

    • Callie

      Khandi I concur….However, Nene does not think she is the problem….therefore, when she presented the idea to you all at lunch she chose the words “You Ladies” until Cynthia called her out on it…..just pay attention and you will find out where Nene is coming from…..she is not a friend…..she is a controller…..if you do not abide by her rules…..you are cut short…..Kenya was a friend of Nene’s in the beginning until Kenya decided to become friends with Margo…..you all know the score…..you guys need to gut punch her with the truth…..maybe she will come clean and accept her responsibility in creating the majority of the drama….

    • Thomas57

      I think that most of what Phaedra has said is for TV…Kandi has always been a good friend and Phaedra needs to watch her back it cray cray NeNe

    • Regina Dickson

      SO TRUE AND NENE WON’T CHANGE BECAUSE SHE FEELS EVERYONE ELSE IS THE PROBLEM.

  • Aisha Pearson

    I wasn’t feeling the way you were supposed to be friends but she thought you were only upset about a business deal. If she was your true friend she would have known it was more to the reason you were crying and she would have asked questions.

    • VoiceofReason

      Because that is the only thing she appeared to have articulated to Phaedra was about the business deal with the play. And the fact that she not having sex.

    • LadyV

      That’s crazy because Phadrea was fighting back tears of her own…….. And to me Phadrea sicker it up and said I don’t care anymore as long as we have an understanding at that point rather she admits it or not Phadrea took the blame even though she wasn’t wrong.
      Through out the whole ordeal Phadrea said she didn’t have that many Good friends, and she didn’t want to lose Kandi because she loved her.

  • Jurnee

    Kandi, I think you are right in your perception with Phaedra. First off, she knows that you and Nene are not friends so confiding in her about you guys should have been a no-no. Second, although your experience with the play wasn’t seen as big of a deal to her as her husband going to jail, doesn’t mean it didn’t affect you as much. People lost their jobs, someone’s bill probably didn’t get paid or kid couldn’t go to camp…. it’s a lot to have others lively hood on your shoulder. It had nothing to do with you being a millionaire. Even if she was upset that you wasn’t there….friends talk things out. You’re not perfect and we all grow from experience, but to confide in someone who you do not consider a friend is taking it to another level. Porsha fueled it, she could have at least told Phaedra to just talk to Kandi, I’m sure she has a reason for it. Phaedra may feel that Nene is her friend but at the end of the day Nene is Nene friend.

    • Veonka Mohedano

      That’s absolutely right, because people did quit there jobs to star in Kandi’s play, and Phaedra knew Apollo’s character, she hope that he would have changed but she’s intelligent to know that it’s a possibility that he would’ve reverted back to his old behavior. However, on the other hand, Kandi had so many other people on her shoulders, and for Phaedra to say that Kandi’s still a millionaire was irrelevant, nevertheless, Phaedra should have discussed the situation with Kandi, that goes to show you the type of friend Phaedra is, because we at times get so caught up in our own foes of life and we at times forget to see about others, but still you can call a friend and say, I need your shoulder for a moment, and I am pretty sure that Kandi would’ve lend it to her! Nene just trying to gain notoriety, PERIOD!

      • VoiceofReason

        That is the nature of show business. Sometimes you work and sometimes you do not. Those in the business know the deal. No one asked these people to quit their jobs for a maybe. And, if they did, it’s the nature of the business. I find it also odd that if Kandi hadn’t been there for Phaedra that whole time, why did she find the time to make it over there to find out what happen during the time when Apollo was to report to prison? She made a special visit for that to ask what happened. I don’t know if that was the way it appeared during broadcast or if they had been in touch prior but I thought that was shady as hell.

      • zelleboo

        I think you were wrong Kandi,your selfless and selfish just like your mom..you bring up issues with Nene that happened years Ago..the real issue was your mad that Phaedra can see the change in Nene and there establishing a friendship..your so hung up on trying to save your marriage that you forget about what Phaedra has done or how she’s been there for you..your mom suggested that she wanted to chock Phaedra out in her office yet Phaedra still remained loyal to you..Todd has been over you,and your crazy family since the death of his mom..what normal person would allow there mom,coworkers,and friends disrespect there husband?? Then his poor mom died of a broken heart thanks to your mom..Todd probably has another woman..and he will leave you..that’s it

      • Stephanie Lawrence

        Nene is the biggest messy person of them all, she does not feel that she’s EVER WRONG! Kandi has a life and dealing with a new marriage so Phaedra could have called her as well. Phaedra knew she married a criminal, so she layed that foundation herself as to what might happen with an ex-criminal. PORSHA follow the leader, meaning if someone is angry at one person she will too. Claudia is just trying to fit in and Kenya want to be apart of the group but tried too hard to fit in and Cynthia wants to be the friendly one but hate when others are treated wrong. Cynthia and Nene really need to sit and REALLY talk about what happen and be open to being friends again. True FRIENDS are hard to find.

        • Veonka Mohedano

          You’re absolutely right! Kenya just wants to be a part of the group, because the feeling of abandonment makes her crazy and sad because that’s what happened to her with her mother. Kandi are dealing with her issues and a lot was on her plate also, Todd might be an opportunitist, not saying he is but when a seed is planted in one’s head it’s hard to erase, and that seed was indeed planted by her Mother, and also carrying the weight of other’s financial situation on your shoulders can overwhelm a person. Cynthia, dislikes wrongness, and tries to correct it, but don’t quite know how. Claudia has issues about being mulatto and have some fears of new people, and to be outted by them, {Nene} makes her sad and act out. Porsha are scary and want to follow Nene for fear of Nene, so it’s easier for her to just go along and boast up to whom she feels she can beat. Phaedra knew that her husband had a past, and she wanted him matters the cost, because she was seeing him with the monitor on and all, but now she wants to revamp her image, so she’s using the children as an escape goat! What I can’t understand is that they LOVE to say that Cynthia licks butts, but never says that about Porsha, and she’s the biggest butt licker of them all! Nene WELL, she’s just plain old Asinine PERIOD! I know that money makes one life better, but does it cost one to act like Nene? The biggest “#FAKE” on the show is Porsha and Phaedra, they tries to pretend to be something there’re not, Porsha, tried to be holy when she was with her husband and pretended to not like women who were loose, stating that she prays for them, and yet she’s going with someone else husband for materialistic things. However, Nene told Kim to close her legs to married men yet condones Porsha because she works her AZZ for a Rolls-Royce, stating “if you’re going to do it at least she’s getting paid, don’t do it for nothing, but wait a minute, wasn’t Kim getting paid from
          “Big-Papa”? Nene loves a due-boy and if you are one of those, then you’re her friend! Phaedra’s NO SOUTHERN BELL, nor is she a Saint, and that phrase she likes to use “Fix It Jesus” are mockery of Christ Jesus, because she continously tell lies, and hate people! When she said that she wouldn’t take Cynthia’s body for burial, that’s despiteful, and”#NOT OF GOD! WWJD? Counseling was a great idea, but all parties must participate, and Nene wasn’t an exception to that rule. What’s more is that Nene thought that Dr. Jeffrey was going to let her rule and that didn’t pan out, so she ran, because she couldn’t face the fact that she’s a “Big Part” of the problem! How therapy works is that you have to ask what’s wrong as to why this person makes you feel this way, and old hurts has to be addressed in order for solutions to be done, and they go around and ask everyone individually, and Nene would have gotten her turn. As to the reason why she was first, is because she was the one that implemented the session, so it common politeness to let the one who put it together go first. The show is a sad factor of how we as ladies get along! I sure hope that this show are scripted, and not the real thing, nevertheless, it’s sad to show younger ladies this because that get the wrong ideas as to how to treat their fellowman, despite their parents input as we know that children at times listen to others before their parents, sadly but true! Well, I hope the best for these ladies, and I will certainly keep them in my prayers! Thanks for the chat!

      • LadyV

        If it was just that I may have agreed with you, but that dude was getting violent toward Phadrea……. I don’t know what kinda code you and your friends have, but my close friends and I don’t get down like that those heff would male their dudes stop by to check in if they couldn’t make it they would make sure I’m cool, and negros wasn’t bugging on me. How could y’all think Kandi call when she didn’t even know that Apollo was threatening Phadre safety, she found out a Lil from Nene, and also made the statement that she didn’t know what was going, because Phadrea had not called her so does that sound like she was around? I believe Phadrea, because she cried and that is something Mrs. Parks refuse to let people see her do she’s always so composed.

        At this point I will agree to disagree

        • Veonka Mohedano

          Phadrea cried because she wants the public to side with her, she’s trying to revamp her image, but I personally believe that she knew what Apollo was doing, not that she liked it, but she knew. What smart Lawyer wouldn’t know, because she really have the means to investigate, so she knew, and now she has to “play” the victim in order to make herself look good!

    • Edna Hill

      Now yall see what nene felt when Cynthia didn’t come to her

  • Tia S Davis Boykins

    Put all of this behind you and continue on with your friendship….. the drama does not need to bleed over to you two.

  • Rae

    True friends understand that sometimes when you going through your own trials it’s difficult to offer encouragement to another, or not boggle them with your woes on top of theirs. True friends would talk to each other before assuming the worse and move passed it.

  • LadyV

    Kandi, but you weren’t there for her and when you went through the list of your ex, and when your mom was cutting up on you she was there for you. I mean a phone call to check is all the girl ask for Kandi. But of course you don’t see your wrong only others, and you why you are in therapy after 6mths of marriage well that’s a no Brainer not saying told is all right, because he isn’t, but never fully confront your demands. And, as you watch the show you would’ve realize that Phadrea just let it all go because she was not on the the market for losing you to. Instead of be jealous that Nene was there for her yif you are a real friend you should be great full that someone other than you was there for her because your friend truly looked like she was on the verge of a nervous breakdown.

    • Jurnee

      But friends can make mistakes, right? Does that mean go to someone else and say that she’s not a good friend, she wasn’t there for me? Wouldn’t a woman talk to her friend and let her know how she feels. I don’t think she was mad at Nene being there, but the simple fact that statements she was saying in the confession made it seem like Nene had her back and Kandi didn’t. That’s not the case because I’m sure Kandi was there during other times. You can’t dismiss what your friend has done for you in the past because of 1 situation.

      • LadyV

        Maybe you heard or saw something different from me….. what I heard was Nene and Porsha address the situation on how they felt Kandy handled everything, because Phadrea was already been feeling that way she broke down and she confided in to them a little bit she didn’t go all the way into detail like that……. The point is apperantly Kandi didnt even bother to call once to check on her so called friend. If you would except your friend treating you like that your good for you, and I feel for you………ijs

    • RJ

      I don’t think Kandi was saying she was not wrong. She was just concerned that Phaedra didn’t come to her which I agree. If I am not being a good friend come to me and say that not to anyone else.

      • Veonka Mohedano

        RJ, you’re absolutely right, Phaedra should’ve went to her in private, and not voice anything to Nene, because do or did you see Nene going to anyone of them concerning her friend Dianna, NO! Phaedra’s such a hypocrite!

  • LaTrease Clark

    Kandi don’t feel bad…know that you are a LOYAL FRIEND! You knew about the text messages prior to dinner, but you denied it to Kenya to protect your friend. Evaluate your relationships..your output she be equal to the input, there should be an equal exchange of effort between real friends. If she so self-centered and can’t understand your family battles…move on..like ol’people “Keep God first” and”Tin To Yo Husband Chile”

    • Veonka Mohedano

      Also Phaedra lied, she said that Nene only talked to her about them going to counseling, she didn’t tell Kandi that she talked to Nene about how she felt about Kandi, as we have all seen, Phaedra tells lies and Phaedra knew of Apollo’s actions. A man brings home a BMW, and you don’t ask where the money comes from, believe me Phaedra spend some of that money, and buys a house in Buckhead, she knew, but she needs to revamp her reparation, so she’s playing the hurt game and using her children as an escape goat, we don’t know how much Kandi knows, and perhaps she knows that Phaedra is not so fourth coming, and she’s just taking a step back. As we can see that Phaedra is now going to a divorce lawyer, just as was said when he goes to jail, she’ll get everything. Listen, if you married a man with a checked pass, chances are, he/she might revert back to that, but if you’re willing to take that chance, then you can’t get angry, or at least you shouldn’t. Now, I am not saying that one cannot change, but you must have preparedness of mind that they might go back to their old ways, I know that Phaedra’s intelligent enough to know that, but she didn’t perhaps think Apollo would get caught, because she’s not apologizing to the older people who’ve lost money due to his scam, but instead she makes it all about her, and the big holes she claims he put in the walls, all I seen was a small hole, but as A “Christian” she should be saying sorry herself to those who have lost due to her husband and I may be wrong but Phaedra enjoyed some of that money also, now she wants to run! She’s wrong on so many levels also, but wants to call out Kandi because that takes the focus off of her and gets people to feel sorry for her. Real friends wouldn’t put that on television, remember Phaedra said that she was a private person, and when Kandi say what’s going on her reply was “nothing chile”. Kandi was there for her, but there’s times in life when we get so boule down in our own sorrows that we cannot muster up the energy to help someone else, I believe that’s what happened to Kandi, she’s hurting also and the blind can’t lead the blind! I think that Phaedra should’ve taken Kandi aside, and talk to her privately, because I believe that Kandi would’ve talked to Phaedra if the shoe was on the other foot. All I know is that Nene said that Phaedra invited her sister {Nene’s} and she said that Phaedra was dirty, now she’s so good, but Kandi stood up for Phaedra against Nene’s wrath. As to the reason Nene’s so helpful now is because NO ONE is feeling her except Porsha, and well……, you know her character. Porsha bullies Kenya, but I bet you your last dollar that she would’ve pulled Nene’s hair, matters not how Nene talked about her or to her, she did that because she felt that Kenya wasn’t going to do anything, but they will see Nene’s true colors, remember she said that she treats her friends like a one night stand, lol!

      • LadyV

        She briefly discussed it and in that cobo she made it clear that she didn’t know what was going on but she new she didn’t want to lose Kandi too because she live her. This is why I have Hulu so I could view multiple times to I miss nothing…… Said, but True those ladies do to damn much in one show.

  • lady tracey

    No shade……When NeNe watches these clips, does she even see herself coming? Does wanting to being the Queen B mean that her self serving inappropriate behavior is acceptable? I’m just saying Blanche! !

  • Ladelle Woods

    Kandi makes me sick! She is so jealous of Nene and Phaedra’s friendship that she couldn’t talk to Phaedra without throwing Nene under the bus. Then she is in the group session adding fuel to the fire. Kandi says she’s neutral but she is that lil mean girl that sits back and talk mess behind people’s backs.

    • RT

      How do you figure she sits back and talks about them behind their backs??? The one thing I’ve seen Kandi consistently do is speak her mind and has not change. So who was she talking about behind their backs???? I think you have her confused with the other ladies.

      • LadyV

        So does Nene so what makes them any different? Nene has been the same since day one. If they can’t take that darn mouth of Nene they should just leave here alone. Just my humble opinion. They did all gang up on her all except for Porsha. No that Nene left their about to attack, and provoke Porsha to see if they could make her snap again and she has Noone their to reason with her.

  • Tia Brown

    Kandi, Phaedra is not your friend. Big bird knows how to push buttons. Don’t let her push yours. READ HER AZZ.

  • shawnycoco

    Hey kandi!! I really use to like u…but really getn to see more an more of you I cld see things!! I cld see why your husband doesn’t feel like aan…as much as u wanna not be like your mom,u are!! You constantly let Jim know that your money is your money, you don’t stand up to your mom…you always act like your not the problem in your relationship Todd and his daughter looks so unhappy..than everything u talk abt you have that goofy smile!! Its annoying!! U need to curb your attitude an start gaining your husband respect bk..cause you losi g him slowly

    • cornetta Winstead

      How you know shawnycoco

      • Veonka Mohedano

        She needs to protect her money because men will bleed you dry and leave you high and dry, one cannot be foolish just because they have a husband, men protect their money, and if the shoe were on the other foot, Todd would’ve protect his money from her, we can be in Love, but do we have to become stupid? Also, if he’s so unhappy he can leave, makes me wonder if he’s hanging on to get his riches and then he’ll be out of the door, because he knows that she {Kandi} LOVES SEX and now he’s using that as a weapon against her, because of the prenuptial agreement, so if he was so upset about it why did he go along with it? Well, because he didn’t want to leave the mansion, and besides he wasted no time bringing his daughter into the house, his daughter never lived with him before, and if things are so bad why would you bring your child there? Todd knew this before he said I DO, so now he wants her to change it, WHY because he figured out that Kandi is not as stupid or he can’t manipulate her so easily as he thought! Investigate Discovery should teach us women a lot, a man like Todd married a wealthy women and slowly he milked her for millions, and then he took off, so we should be cautious and wise, this world produces many scam artist, and we can’t never be to careful, all that looks good may not be necessarily good, the Bible says watch as well as pray, #WORD!

        • LadyV

          Exactly, Kandi may be shady as hell.

          • Veonka Mohedano

            Amen, LadyV, game do recognize game, and Todd {too me} is full of games, and he {in my opinion} Todd never wanted Kandi. Todd wanted a come up, and he took everything that went along with that, because Mama Joyce was acting up before he said I DO, and he went along with it, but he thought that he could talk Kandi out of anything, but he’s seeing that it difficult, and so he knows that Kandi loves dic? so he’s withholding it from her, and now he’s trying to work on the prenuptial agreement, if he’s not concerned about money, why is he mad if he doesn’t want her money? Mama Joyce is crazy as hell, but I think she was a little right about Todd little AZZ!

    • LadyV

      I agree with you except when comes to the prenuptial agreement if you look at it he is a man, and a real man would’ve say that’s cool because I have my own shit…… Have you seen what some of these men are getting when they divorce women that makes more than thm……… The hell with that.

      • Veonka Mohedano

        Yes, that’s what Todd is banking on, “in the manner in which he’s a custom to” he will get her on that, because I can clearly see that he didn’t want Kandi, but he wanted a come up, listen, A Mother can see and hear a train whistle blowing, and see a train coming when a daughter/son are to blind to see and to deaf to hear, and she’ll try to pull them back from destruction! You’re right “Game Knows Game”! Mama Joyce went about it all wrong, but that’s what mama’s do when they feel like their children are being used ECT…, the expression “I’LL DIE FOR MINES” is very true for mama’s.

  • delores

    I think it was wrong for everybody to point fingers at nene including you kandi you is so two faced.cynthia Kenya and clawdia needs to go.

  • Charlene

    I DO NOT LIKE NENE..she ia trouble maker and a BIG DRAMA QUEEN…little does she know, she starts all the DRAMA…thinking that she can say whatever she wants to say to other people but she cannot take it back….she gets up and walks out. Also, she has to understand that this IS NOT HER SHOW and IT IS NOT ALL ABOUT HER…she is NOT a friend to anyone. Also, she is NOT the rich &^%$&, KANDI is the REAL RICH %^&%%, so NENE you better recognize!!!!!Whenever someone starts to say what is wrong with her, she gets LOUD and tries to over talk them, which is very RUDE and IGNORANT!!!!!She thinks her loudness makes the point, but little does she know it doesn’t. To me she really needs to be GONE off the show!!!

    • cornetta Winstead

      Nene For one is very childish she can stand for anyone to have and opinion thats different from hers and as soon as you call her out on anything she want to come at you like miss badass but when stand up to her she runs as long as she can over talk you or stand over you she’s kool but she saw no one was backing down and even the Dr. Commented on her ignorance so she took her ball an ran home kandi you & phaedra can work this out just have a girls day just the two of you talk it out both of u should apologize for hurting one anothets feelings and move on its truly hard to have and keep a real girlfriend so let those small things slide hug, kiss and remember why u guys became so close in the first place you’ll. Laugh,cry andove forward with your friendship…

    • Pam

      I think you guys are blaming a person for defending themselves against a pack of ugly wolves. Each if these ladies are guilty of making awful statements about each other, but for some reason when NeNe is held to a different standard. When Kenya Cynthia and Claudia get together they bash NeNe right away. They make her very relevant. I feel Kandi only targeted NeNe because of Phaedra confiding in her. All of these ladies have offended each other and should move on as coworkers because with friends like these who need enemies?

    • LadyV

      So is Kandi, but hey we all seem to miss the fact that all of them are messy little trouble makers. But to me Nene never lies to them she tells them exactly how she feels and they can’t take that. Kenya w looked like she wanted to die when Nene vehemently told her that they would never be friends. If Nene is that bad why do they always worry about what she is saying. A female that I don’t like I tend not to discuss them arefeed into the bullshit so whatever she said to me would’ve been irrelevant.

  • dlocs1

    Here’s my thing….I haven’t seen where Phaedra has “discussed” u per se. What I’ve seen, is an emotional person, going through a lot of sh%# and wondering why her “friend” isn’t inquiring about her. Yes…u have a lot going on as well, but I’m just the type where if my good girlfriend is going through something as tumultuous as her husband going to prison, or possibly divorcing, I’m going to be present as much as I can. Her discussions with Porsha and NeNe was an outlet to get some of the sh#% off of her chest, and regardless of who it is she’s talking to, since u had “so much going on”, I’d think you’d appreciate she had some kind of outlet. Just get it together yall. I’ve always been Team Phaedra & Kandi as friends. Just pray and move on.
    My last opinion would be the one regarding u and Todd. During the taping of this season, and I’m sure what we can’t see, Todd is shutting down. I’m sure your mama was still disrespectful, and I’m sure u didn’t have his back in that regard. Now since the passing of his mom, I hope things are a little different. But all I have to say is…u say u will do anything to save your marriage? Keep ya mama in her place as your mother, and keep ya friends out ya business. Btw…fire that disrespectful ass Don Juan too!

    • Kim Holman Bobb

      I totally agree with “fire that disrespectful ass Don Juan too!” He is not only disrespectful toward Kandi but he is highly disrespectful toward Todd. I cringed when I watched the scene where her entire crew just rode Todd as if he was not Kandi’s husband and even made comments about hoping there weren’t going to be any little Todd’s running around. Kandi, put a lid on your friends before you lose your husband. I was mad like Todd was my husband. If a man does not feel respected in his home and place of work, he will go to a place he does feel respected (such as LA). Love ya, Kandi – wake up – You feed too many mouths for Todd to endure the disrespect that he does from the very mouths you feed.

  • barbie

    Kandi when Apollo came to your house and told you and Todd about the text, why didnt you call her after he left(if you didnt want to do it while he was there) to inform her what was going on? this is where the friendship goes into question. this is your bestfriend and you dont leave your bestfriend in the dark when her reputation is at hand. a lot of this could have been solved a long time ago between you and phaedra. its not about being in someone business especially when its brought to your house but protecting your friend like she did for you during your troubles. we don’t know you or phaedra personally, can only comment off what is seen on t.v. not saying you a bad person just didnt make a right choice.

    • MSKIM2U

      First off he went to Cynthia’s husband. Also, Kandi probably realized just how shady Phaedra really is and wanted to downsize the friendship. Especially instead of admitting that she was wrong for calling Kenya a whore, after it was confirmed that her husband lied on Kenya, she still tried to justify her actions! That’s the reason Kenya was so vehement about making sure everyone knew about her alleged text to another man. I would have felt the same way Kenya did. How are you going to call me a whore when you’re married and texting whore like stuff to another man?!? Also, Phaedra, has been known to lie, from the jump, especially about something as insignificant as her due date! I mean for her to go from not really caring for Nene to her bossom buddy is quite unstable in itself lol! Porsha, again, is she even still a housewife….lol on the show and in real life….the answer UH NO!

      • rint jones

        Kenya caused her on where stamp by flirting with phadera husband, making comments about a polka text her and as a friend if I ask u not to be around my husband alone y would u, to cause drama So kenya is far from innocent

      • rint jones

        Kenya caused her on where stamp by flirting with phadera husband, making comments about a polka text her and as a friend if I ask u not to be around my husband alone y would u, to cause drama So kenya is far from innocent

      • VoiceofReason

        Hold up, hold up. Even if Phaedra was seeing someone else as she right now is well within her rights because her husband basically deserted her that she can now be called a whore? Kenya’s reputation preceded her to Atlanta and she made abundantly clear her attraction to Apollo. She was the one who insinuated that the text sent among them were more than what they were. She’s always more attracted to, it seems, to attached men … we damn sure have not see anyone since she’s been on the show and Walter does not count.

        • Veonka Mohedano

          The marriage vows says “for better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and in health to death do us part”. So Phaedra wasn’t divorce, so she doesn’t have a right to see another man by God’s standards, Phaedra’s the one who says that she’s a “Southern Bell”, and a Christian, so if you are those things, you have to walk in the way if the Lord, WWJD, FORGIVE. When her husband said he lied she as A “Christian” should’ve walk as God said to do, otherwise, STOP spouting about being with the Lord, and she LOVES to use the phrase Fix It Jesus, that’s what she should have said when it was brought to her attention! We can’t just talk the talk about being a Christians we must walk the walk! What if Jesus did what Phaedra did, he said that he will forgive us of our trust passes, and yet when we mess up, he continued to hold that against us. As “A Christian” we set the example, and perhaps we can get others to see the goodness of God, that’s what Phaedra Should’ve done, because She Claims To Be A Christian, not Kenya!

          • VoiceofReason

            Yeah, that is what the vows say but it does not say that if one party is not holding up their end of the bargain the other has to. That is not how it works. And Phaedra doesn’t owe Apollo a damn thing. Jesus warned about putting your trust in man and yes, he was right about that. And, forgive me, if you want to “preach” at least spell the words correctly. It is distracting. It is trespass, not trust passes. And you can forgive a person and have absolutely nothing to do with them. I am sure Phaedra has owned up to her part about getting with someone of which they were not evenly yoked. Apollo was a petty criminal with a small mind and limited vocabulary and intelligence. Just goes to show handsome and good sex means absolutely nothing when choosing a mate. Obviously a relationship, a marriage, a partnership takes needs more than a handsome or beautiful face and good sex.

          • Veonka Mohedano

            Unfortunately, God is not going to hold me accountable for the word Trespass, because I was just referring to God’s Holy Word, and being Phaedra says she’s a Christian, then we have a duty to uphold God’s Law, so you can find fault, but you are still my brother/sister, and in this life we are going to have typos, and even misspelled words, but I say to you may God Be The Glory! Be blessed my brother/sister, I will never down you!

            Clearly God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) because “What God has joined together, let man not separate . . . I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery” (Matthew 19:6, 9). Jesus said that, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery” (Mark 10:11-12).  Being unequally yoked with unbelievers was mentioned prior to marriage but God is just as clear that divorce is not permissible just because one is not a believer and the other is not.

            Paul writes, “If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him” (1 Corinthians 7:12-13).  There are many such marriages where a spouse is a believer and married to an unbeliever but this is not grounds for divorce. In fact, the believing spouse may lead such a life as to bring the unbelieving spouse to faith in Christ.  First Corinthians chapter 7 is an excellent overview of marriage and sexual relationships for the single believer.  Here Paul lays down the command “for all churches” to continue living and being married to the unbeliever.  First Corinthians 7:17, 20 says, “Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. Each person should remain in the situation they were in when God called them.”

            If a husband or wife dies, then that person can remarry and not commit adultery, which is what Paul was specific about in I Corinthians 7:39, “A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.” So the unbelieving spouse can remarry but it must be to a believer as to not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever.  If a spouse is married to an unbeliever Paul writes, “If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.  For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? ” (I Cor 7:12-14, 16). This is an amazing passage of Scripture.  Paul says that it is possible – in fact it has happened many times – that an unbelieving spouse comes to faith in Christ by the mate.

            Sexual immorality or adultery that is unrepentant and ongoing is reasonable before God’s eyes for permitting a divorce.  Jesus said that, “But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife [and husband of course], except for sexual immorality, makes her [or him] the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery” (Matt 5:37. 19:9). Adultery is breaking a serious commandment (Ex 20:14). But if the adultery and sexual immorality committed by the sinning spouse stops and they repent, then there should be every chance given to the person to forgive them (Mark 11:25, Luke 6:27-28).  God is all about forgiveness and we are told to forgive our brother or sister when they fall and want to be restored.

            Divorce is a last resort but if there is no other choice and adultery persists with no signs of remorse, repentance, or change, then divorce is permitted.  God hates divorce but He would not expect a married person to remain married to a spouse that remains in an adulterous situation.  It is hoped that there is always room for repentance, counseling, and reconciliation – but if it does not occur, and sexual sins outside of marriage persist, the victim of such a marriage is not bound by the law and God would not call that sin.

          • VoiceofReason

            You do know that Jesus was nailed to the cross as fulfillment of the law so that we all may be saved by grace, correct? The one true commandment is that we love one another, right? Jesus saved us all from condemnation. Stop attempting to condemn Phaedra because you don’t like her. You don’t even really know her. You are not in the position to judge because you are not perfect either, no matter how much scripture you quote. You cannot judge her because she sins differently than you.

          • Veonka Mohedano

            I never said that I didn’t like her, I love her she’s my sister, and I wasn’t judging, I simply told what thus said the Lord, if I said that you shouldn’t steal because it’s wrong, is that judging, or is it just saying what the Lord said? We must stop saying that people are judging when they are simply saying what’s in the Bible. We have a duty to do as God says if we call ourselves following him, we must lead by example. I can’t do wrong and expect my children to do what’s right, Jesus can’t do wrong and expect us to believe in righteousness, all I was doing is showing you what’s in God’s word the Bible, and you can choose for yourself, that’s all nothing more, someone told me the truth, and I listened, I wasn’t so quickly to say that they were judging me, because God gave us our own senses to choose right from wrong, and ONLY God can judge us, but he did say go and preach the good news of his righteousness, anyway I am never going to auger God’s word, but it’s up to us to take heed and abide by it. Be bless and know that you are loved and that you are wonderfully, beautifully designed by the Master hands! Peace be unto YOU! Thanks for the chat.

          • LadyV

            And thank good that he died on the cross for the sins of his children…… No one is perfect. The bible also says the he help those who help themselves

          • LadyV

            And, as he decided not to continue dealing with his bs so that’s why she’s divorcing his ass…… Why women continue to have loyalty to mean that really don’t give a damn about them is beyond me. If it was the other w as y around Apollo would have had a bunch of Kenya types in her bed before the cell d could close tight.

        • LadyV

          I concur.

      • barbie

        No need to have an attitude by saying” first off”. It was confirmed and said by Peter that he told both of them in their houses. Please rewind your dvr. The point you are missing Kandi knew and didn’t give her bff Phaedra a heads up!!! Who does that to their bff?? Kenya is not worth a topic to talk about, her actions speak for her. In my city ahe would have wore an ass whooping for disrespect. #Myopinionagreeornot

        • MSKIM2U

          If you think “first off’ is an indication of getting smart, then you’re not very smart. In as much, Kandi, never acknowledged that she knew about it, and with all the things going on in their own relationship, Todd probably wanted to spare his wife of additional drama, that didn’t include them. Lastly, Phaedra can’t call Kenya a whore because she isn’t the angel she portrays. How can you take Phaedra seriously….with Nene the person she confides in….after the history they have. She may as well be BFFs with Kenya, at least she is consistent!

          • LadyV

            If Todd wanted to spare Kandi the additional drama when Patricia ask him if Kandi knew his ass would said NO……..

        • LadyV

          You said a mouthful with that one. But if Kandi behavior is a great example for them as a BFF then I’m good I could do bad by myself.

      • LadyV

        Why is she wrong for calling Kenya a whore? Kenya behave like a whore when she kept trying to talk to Apollo when Phadrea ain’t around he is a married man that is whore behavior. So Kenya needs to get over it she shouldn’t have continued doing that especially when there is already distrust there so she asked for.

  • vitality08

    True friends address problems with each other one on one, not by going to other people first. But this is reality TV! LOL Kandi wasn’t comparing her problems to Phaedra’s. She was simply explaining why she had been distant and not responsive to Phaedra’s issues. This was more than a “bad business” deal. Kandi wasn’t concerned about the loss of money for herself, but for the people who had quit their jobs to join the tour. These people had trusted her and now they may suffer financially. That’s a heavy weight to bear as well as having your own marital and family problems. So that wasn’t nice for Phaedra to dismiss Kandi’s hurt/problems because they didn’t “measure” up to her own. Hurt is hurt. Pain is pain. There’s no competition.

    • Veonka Mohedano

      Phaedra made her bed and now she wanted others to help her remake it, but Kandi’s problems are really heavy because people have suffered at her hands, and how can you sleep well knowing that, however Phaedra had to know that if you buy a used car, there might be problems that can occur that’s hidden, so you take a chance, and as we can all see that car gave her problems. Nevertheless, Apollo did people wrong by stealing from them, why don’t Phaedra talk about the people lives whom Apollo stolen from and send out apologies to them, “#NO” she’s only concern about herself, st least Kandi have a heart to feel sympathy for the ones who may suffer because of her show!

  • Dana Pearce

    C’mon kandi, you didn’t wanna get involved admit it!!!!! Stop BSing EVERYONE, we know you!!!!!

  • disqus_6zz82yE4Jy

    Someone needs to tell Nene that Jennifer Hudson won the Oscar and she should get off her high horse, she might have done a few gigs in theater and a small part on Glee, but she’s a long long way from ever being a great actress of lasting potential

    • kenisha smiles

      I think kandi did d right thing by going Phaedra n say wats on her mind at d end of d day u guys are best frens n dnt like becas u werent their to support each break u n her apart u guys can fix it u r all grown ppl u guys need to sit n tlk n cry if possible n get ur frenshil bk ….nene needs to get out d show she always play d victim in everytging she do everybody is not coming for u but its jus d type of person u be start drama n then bk out u want everyone to go counseling n then u wlk out wen their telling u d truth nene by grown up d oldest n d richest on d show ave ntn to do with it stol gossiping n be a grown as woman TEAM KANDI Cynthia Claudia kenya phaedra im not a fan of u cause love to throw shades n always want ppl to apologise to u n dnt wanna do it bk up to this day u still own KENYA an apology….god bless u all

  • disqus_6zz82yE4Jy

    Listen up ladies, You only need 2 friend in life, 1 to talk about you and the other 1 to tell you what they said, choose your friends wisely

  • Sweetnece

    Pheadra is not some helpless woman who can’t function if someone is not calling her daily! Just like she has JOBS…so does everyone else. Sometimes being a friend means giving them space, not being all up in my face every second. Pheadra could’ve picked up the phone if she was so concerned and talked to HER FRIEND! Why would she need to repeat Apollo’s nonsense. Some things are just not worth repeating. Kandi you are a great friend and Pheadra needs to stop letting Nene get in her ear. Nene doesn’t have friends and you and Porscha are falling for the old okie doke.

  • Vanessa

    Nene needs the most therapy out of everyone. She has been fighting with everyone from the time the show aired…You got Kim, Dwight, Sheree, Marlo, anybody who does not see things Nene way is not a good friend or if they have remotely any kind of relationship with someone she is fighting with, she wants them to choose.

    • LadyV

      Well Kim and Nene are hanging again…… Marlo let Kenya get in between her and Nene so she got axed. Dwight was Nene friend he had no right going behind her back giving money to greg. She reel was messy her damn self she even attacked Kim…….

  • Nikki

    First i love both you an Todd, Phaedra and Appolo. Kandi i know you want to remain neutral because your loyalty to your husband. However, you to have been friends before them. Phaedra also said see loved you th death, did you miss that? You did make it seem like it was more important the money then a friend. Remember FOR THE LOVE OF MOBEY IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL. I love you hustle but it seems like it control all aspects of your life marriage as well. Please be more of a friens to Phaedra we knoe Nee Nee is temporary. We will take anything we can get at the time when there is someone to listen. Stop turning your nose up to everyone when there is things you dont like about what people say. Love you but your not always right.

  • Reign

    Kandi why do you hate Nene? It seems you are throwing so much shade Nene’s way lately. All your references are towards Nene. Why hate on Phaedra and Nene building a friendship! Is does not mean she likes you any less. People tend to have more than one friend. Stop concentrating on Phaedra, Nene, and Porsha’s friendship and work on rebuilding your friendship with Phaedra. I hope it all works out!

    • LadyV

      Phadrea should’ve Sai the same way you hangout with Cynthia after y’all almost got into a physical altercation…….

  • Marquita James

    Yes Kandi the episode irritated you because you saw how messy you really are. You are full of drama just like all of the rest of them. Phaedra did not say she had a problem with you. Just said NeNe was there and her BFF was not. Have you forgotten how you went hood on Peter. (Drama) But let NeNe go off on him its a problelm. All of you need to check yourself. And yes you are on the top of the list for mess

  • Sarah Kayte N

    Kandi you knew that Phaedra was going through some things while she did not know what you had going on. You expected her to reach out to you to check on you and she had no idea that you too were having issues. NeNe and Porsha made themselves available for Phaedra and you did not. Sometimes you have to be the friend that you need, to someone else first. As a friend you should have added checking in on her to your list of concerns. Maybe after checking on her you would have been able to share what you had going on in your life so that she would have been aware and not felt diserted.

    • Edna Hill

      Truly agree sometimes in friendship you have to make sacrifices, meaning even though you yourself may be dealing with things, you set your issues aside to be there for your friend, it’s like in a marriage if your spouse ain’t getting what they need at home at some point they begin to fill that which is missing with outsider…

  • Edna Hill

    This is a cycle…that they all should think about..I hope now if nothing else that maybe kandi can say she has something in come with nene, and truly understand why nene felt like Cynthia wasn’t a true friend, simply because Cynthia too went to the other ladies to talk about her and nene problems instead of talking to her friend first(nene)

  • Loisshedidthat James

    I agree with Ladelle..when you found out the apollo was lying on kenya, you did run to her and comfort her BUT when he took his lying butt to your house with those text, you didnt let phaedra know what was going on.. if thats your best friend, you suppose to let her know whats going on. especially about her.. i think you
    are more friends to kenya,cynthia and claudia than phaedra..she couldnt confide in you, because your loyalty is with phaedra enemies

    • Vonn

      Another perspective. If after two years of perpetuating the lie about Kenya, would you accept any thing Apollo comes up with as gospel? Should one not take anything he says with a spoonful of salt, and not spread it. I am very suspicious of those texts he produced, seeing how adept he has been at manipulation. Also, if I were to find myself in similar circumstances, I could not repeat stuff me and my spouse were privy to, for fear of the backlash , and especially since it could be filmed.

      • LadyV

        That is the question I keep asking I swear these ladies let hate overrule common sense.

  • Delphine Smith

    I Understand Kandi point of View on Several Occasions she went by Phaedra house and tried to talk with her about Apollo and see what was going on once when she went over and ask phaedra to come out to lunch and try to talk with all the other ladies’ then she went by and ask Phaedra again what was going on when Phaedra told kandi about how crazy Apollo was acting by punching holes in the walls, So she can not say that Kandi was not supportive, once you ask someone about their issues Once or Twice and you see that they are not really talking in detail about it then you do not just continue to force them into telling you their business. you just let them know that you will be there for them if they need a shoulder to cry on, Phaedra admitted herself to Kandi that she was the only housewife that knew what she had been going threw and seen her break down but now all of a sudden once NeNe get in her ear while she is at her lowest point she gets disappointed in her friendship with Kandi’ smart as Phaedra seem to be, she acts real Nieve when it come down to personal issues, i personally feel that she is using this as her new Storyline because now that Apollo is out of the picture what would she do in order to be interesting no one want to see her and kenya go at it any more, also Apollo is gone so what better way to stay on the show then act as if she has a problem with Kandi she know that will keep the viewers watching so they can find out the out come. and at the end of the day she know that rating is all Bravo care about and that is how she will keep her job with that $700.000 a Season coming in, So throwing away a friendship is not that big of a deal just ask Angela Stanton who wrote the book about Phaedra Loyalty

  • CRYSTAL Thompson

    Kandi you want to deal with why you & Todd and You & Phaedra have issues and it all boils down to what your husband was saying about you never wanting to deal with anything that makes you uncomfortable…I commend you for not telling Kenya and Cynthia anything about Phaedra but at the same time that you attended Peters event you could have kept in contact with your friend…when you and Phaedra had your conversation, you only mentioned the play and never talked about going to counseling with your husband that everyone else knew about but her friend…It made it seem as the play was more important and I could see how Phaedra would feel…BUT… Yall do need to reevaluate your friendship because if I was hurting or feeling a certain way I would reach out to my friend and in being a friend I would know that something is wrong with my friend…YOU BOTH HAVE FAULT IN THIS ONE

    • LadyV

      But he ain’t never lied even though I think that his but is cheating.

  • TooHOTT

    Kandi its ok for you to go to Phaedra and see what’s the hell wrong with her crazy ass in telling NeNe of all people about she didn’t feel as if you was concern about the issued that the dumb UNDERGROUND RAILROAD Porsha gone start that shit, and hell everybody know you don’t get in their shit and wen you do say some shit its already been said all NeNe wants to see you and Phaedra friendship end I wished now you would have blowed up on her ass LMAO, and Phaedra shouldve came to you if she thought it was problem but what she do go to ugly ass NENe and Dumb ass Porsha. And yes I think Cynthia and Kenya should shut their mouth up sometimes. And Claudia just come in the picture and NeNe acts like she wants her VajaVaja hell she talking about it like she have had it, and poor dumb ass Porsha she just mad bc she thought Claudia was gone hook up with Cordell, I wished she would have, really put a frown on her dumb ass face. And stop all that crying when you talking with those miserable W______ they trying to get where you at.

  • KiKi

    ok, i understand what you’re saying, but phaedra’s problem was more intense than you and todd not having sex and that sorry ass play with those untalented people in it. you even sucked as your voice is horrible.

    • TooHOTT

      Now KiKi you sound like a hatter, Phaedra problems is no greater than anybody’s problem on the damn show her husband got caught up and she knew what the hell he was doing she wasn’t that damn lame to the game, like she said she thought he had change but she see that he didn’t so now its time for her to move on.

  • lynn

    kandi i think you are a good friend

  • TooHOTT

    First of all Kandi did right she didn’t have to tell Phaedra shit about her Husband coming over there to talk to her husband about his relationship on what his wife is doing, she did right hell she has a husband and Kandi you dont need to let nobody come to you and tell you shit about TODD. Keep it in your house BC people are cruel they just sitting around looking to see your face crack, you and Phaedra are friends but what your friend do go to NeNe and bam their it go she tells dumb ass Porsha and what they do sit around and talk about it with each other and run with it. NeNe is nobody friend on RHOA.

  • Deedee

    Phaedra only needed a pity party after Apollo got caught to try to distance herself from his wrong doings. She knew he had no legitimate means of income. Why should Kandi involve herself in that mess. It has nothing to do with friendship.

    • Veonka Mohedano

      Deedee, I absolutely agree!

  • Cynthia Johnson

    This can be looked at from so many perspectives we all have very good friends & we also know how our friends are. Sometimes when we voice our opinion to our friends they don’t receive it well. I like Ms. Phaedra but she tells you what she wants you to know I think we all can agree with that right? As Kandi has stated she was caught up in her own world she should have checked on her friend Phaedra but it’s very easy to get caught up… We only see bits & pieces we don’t know everything that’s happing behind closed doors I have a friend that I think about often but she seems a little funny acting at times so I allow her to reach out to me…Just something to think about

    • Veonka Mohedano

      You are right, because if you tell some friends how you really feel, then they get angry at you, as we can see that Nene is like that and Phaedra seems to be that way also, perhaps Kandi knows that and just said if she needs new she’ll call me, and I will be there.

      • LadyV

        But, Phadrea ain’t like that with Kandi I don’t care what no one says Phadrea bends for Kandi messy ass.

    • LadyV

      She had time to catch up she just didn’t want Todd to be made for that too. But he had no problems hanging Apollo…… How quickly do they forget without Phadrea hooking them up there would be no marriage.

  • Carolyn Minter

    Was Fakedra’s damn hand broke. Who in the hell does she think she is? If I don’t hear from my friend I’m not going to wait and see if she calls me. I’m going to pick up that phone and call her. Fakedra is full of sh&%.First off she wasn’t going though a damn thing. She had already replaced Apollo with another trick she bought. She has never acted like she gave a damn that Apollo was going to jail, in fact she acted like she was glad he was going. Fakedra has these folks damned fooled. Kandi should see this crook isn’t her friend and she should keep it moving. That head doctor slut only want weak folks in her life that she can use to do her dirty work and she can throw under the bus when she gets done using them. I for one will be so glad when the Feds catch up with this greasy, slick, phony, fake crook and lock her a&% up. Then Kandi don’t have to worry about her being a real friend and nothing else because she will be in a cell just like her bought jailbird trick. Fakedra’s a&% is full of sh&%$. POINT BLANK PERIOD!*

    • Veonka Mohedano

      Carolyn, girl you read the truth, that Fakedra isn’t sad she’s just playing on the minds of weak people period!

  • katherine

    i think kenza need to shut up she never think she wrong about anything and she is the e worst always ready to start something. i remember last season when your dog died you was at the reunion talked about how some of the ladies didn’t reach out to you. so ,my question is ,have you reach out to Pherda,? she just became a single mother with responsibility of raising her to sons i think they are far more important than a dog, but i know the answer that you ,cladia, of cynthia have not reach out to her. so who is holding the double standard now. you should leave the show you and claudia is no housewives, you never been married

  • Kimesha

    There was an episode where Todd was asking Kandi what she thought about Phaedra not letting Apollo see the kids and Todd was visibly upset that she didn’t think it was wrong of Phaedra. Now i think with all the problems between Kandi and Todd, i think Kandi didn’t want the issue between Apollo and Phaedra to be ne of them so she extracted herself from the whole situation. Now thats where i have a problem with Kandi. You can’t allow your man to dictate how you treat your friends. HE is apollos friend and you are Phaedras friend so you should ride for her all the time. Kandi need to learn that theres no such thing as being NEUTRAL!!! If we are friends and you are loyal to me, no way can you be loyal to my enemy too!! PICK A SIDE and stick to it and that should be Phaedras side.Nobody cares about Nene but at the end of the day Phaedra had to turn to somebody and Nene and Porsha made themselves available. Kandi if you want to complain then you should have been there for your friend Point blank!

    • LadyV

      Kandi, siding with Kenya, Cynthia them I wonder how she forgot that not to long ago Cynthia and her sister was about to fight her ass, and she went all so called beast mode. Nene had nothing to do with that she just threw the party and everyone played the game. Amazing how quickly they forget

    • Vonn

      I am only just reading this. So why are you surprised at the way Kandi is allowing her husband to dictate how she treats her friends. Is this not consistent with the way she allows her mother to treat her husband, Does she act like a real employer would, and chastise that despicable Don Juan and the other two. Does she see that what her daughter says borders on being rude, instead of seeing it as having the ability to speak her mind. Does this not show that she lacks ‘discernment’ (a la Porsha). Who would allow their mother, or anyone else for that matter, treat their husband with such disrespect and let it all slide. She is not aware of a lot of things. If she did, she would see like we all could, that Todd was mentally on the way out. And the events leading up to his mother’s death, would not have helped either. I for one, would have linked her heart attack, to the nastiness emanating from that mother in law of his. I have this nasty suspicion that that plays a big role in his current behavior.

  • Liquid_diamond

    I’ve never been a Nene fan but it was a one sided massacre. Kandi is totally pissed because Phaedra confided in a woman she has been holding a childish grudge against for five years. Why wasn’t everybody’s unflattering flashback show because well all ALL the entire cast has them. Kandi ran to Kenya’s side when Apollo admitted to lying on her but was not there for her alleged bestie, why? Because moose had reached out to her. Kandi has explicitly said when it comes to HER MONEY, everything else is secondary. But you all conveniently overlooked that confessional. worried about Goldie saying she is the only original housewife. Well, like or hate her, SHE IS, RHOA’s Matriarch. No amount of one-sided flashbacks, conspiring with cast-members is going to change that. Let go of the past, move on, focus on why your husband struggles to find a pro to say about you. Focus on why you think Todd was cheating. Focus on why your mother feels justified in dehumanizing your husband and his family without remorse. That storyline was boring, when all else fail, dig up the past, come for NayNay. Nene has a massive ego but Kandi is not innocent either.

  • Kimberley44

    Really Kandi????? I had to read that twice to really believe that you wrote that… You sound so selfish, you and everyone else knows you could have taken two minutes and just found out if Phaedra was ok.. But nooooo it’s all about you, you, you..NeNe and Porsha both have been through the hurt of a divorce.. and then you are going to say she didn’t even ask me what other things I had going on.. REALLY KANDI.. Then you are going to come for NeNe in the counseling session? FOR WHAT, you sounded so damn jealous that she had be befriended Phadera.. You wasn’t there for Phaedra so why did you give a damn that NeNe was there for her… You run to comfort Kenya over some pure bullshit that Apollo lied about, but you couldn’t take a few seconds out your schedule to check on your BFF?

    • Vonn

      Maybe Kandi has more decency than you give her credit for. She did not comfort Kenya. She was trying to right a wrong that was perpetuated. For years that pure BS that you saw, was a major part of the show, and any one who was part of this , SHOULD HAVE apologized, especially that Southern Christian belle. Notice how Miss Phaedra, after having insulted Demetria at first blush, thought it admirable that poor decent Demetria apologized to her, but did not see the need to do the same, in spite of being the instigator. That’s called INTEGRITY. Get familiar with it. But you are right. Kandi’s disappearing act to her friend left a lot to be desired.

  • Kimberley44

    You should have just said, I’m sorry I should have made sure you were ok, I was having problems myself……….!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Kandi

    Phaedra is mad at the world about her husband. She’s like a evil demon now.She painted the perfect picture for the world.
    Nene is just a big ugly country big foot that got loose a long time ago..Sorry Nene accept you are ugly and no surgery could ever help you.Shes a hater ladies…
    Cynthia is messy and snicky and don’t no one want her broke ass man.
    Kandi you are hard to please because you want everything to go your way. I think you has made another mistake by marrying Todd..You should have marry your mom. Buying Todd all those fancy cars and dressing him up..you getting him ready for another woman and it dont buy you no extra sex from Todd..I got to give it you Todd stay there to you get it all and least just see how controlling her mom..She just killed your poor mother with all those lies..Un Un Un
    Kendra is a beautiful black woman that gets what’s she wants if she got to step on her friends toes..one word describes her is messy..So why tell someone something when you know she’s going to tell it..you the fool not Kendra..I like your style girl…lol

  • Ric

    Kandi aint about the drama. Neither does she entertain it by getting the gurls together at a dinner table to to tell them apollo told her husband about some text messages he probably made up. Everybody knows Apollos middle name is fraudulent. I love the fact that Kandi doesnt have to be messy to make us watch her every sunday. Unlike most people on Rhoa. Kandi handled the situation like a mature woman, by coming to phaedra to ask her, why confide in Nene and Porsha without atleast telling me there was an issue?

  • EA

    First of all Phaedra is the ring leader to her husband bust. Let’s not get this twisted. That situation been going on for years. Sombody should have told phaedra (you can’t turn a criminal into a husband it doesn’t WORK). Phaedra needs to stop playing victim like she’s all innocent because she’s not.

    • Veonka Mohedano

      EA, thanks for telling the truth!

    • LadyV

      She gave him a chance to redeem himself to be better he chose not to. She became a victim when his crazy ass started threatening her.

  • pb1951

    First of all you don’t forget your friends when they are having problems. You are beginning to act like Cynthia and Kenya. You have changed a lot since you got married, but that’s a topic for another time.

  • Tesha Shontae

    I say, stop watching the episodes Kandi. You already lived it, why relive it. That’s how Cynthia n NeNe fell out. They had gotten passed the issue and apologized and forgave. Cynthia started back feeling some type of way after watching the show and feeding into everyone’s opinions. Fix it with your friend and move on. I like Phaedra, just fix it. Y’all both had things going on, Both could have done things a little differently…use it to be better.

  • Nelson123

    They just need to pray for one another, they all are beautiful and intelligent women that God wants to use!

  • Delores Cannon

    Kandi have never ever discuss Phadra with the other ladies… She told Phadra she met with Kenya and apologize.. She even told Kenya she believed Apollo because Phadra was her friend….

  • Kim Holman Bobb

    I think Phaedra was just a bit disappointed that she had not heard from you considering what she was going through. I also agree that the door does swing both ways. She should have reached out to you as well. I was disappointed that you did not stop the madness at the restaurant. It was your invite, you should have redirected the conversation away from your BFF instead of waiting as everyone else to see what she would say. I think that’s where you dropped the BFF ball. I would never allow my friend to have to defend herself in front of a group of women. As for the argument of the double standard. It’s a no-go. Kenya openly flirted with Apollo. Even after Phaedra asked her woman-to-woman to stay away from her husband, Kenya waited for Phaedra to be out of earshot and approached Apollo anyway. Not only did she approach him, but called him away from the group of men to talk to him. That was totally disrespectful and in any wife’s eye, from that moment she was a whore. Otherwise, she would have respected her sister’s request.

  • s dubbya

    It’s time for Phaedra to leave the show. Now that Apollo is gone she has no storyline, except that tidbit storyline he started for her about Mr Chocolate

  • Latasha Alexander Mba

    What made me mad about this is Kandi is alwats solid as a rock. She never tells Phaedras business or things they discuss to anyone.. Phaedra never mentioned if she reached out to Kandi amd said hey girl how are you whats going on havent heard from you. But she expected that.

  • Just keeping it real

    Everybody is talking about what Phaedra was going through. Hell, she knew she were marrying a damn criminal when she married him. Do Phaedra even know what a real friend is? What about Angela Stanton? The lady who told it all but no one listened. Phaedra were supposed to be her friend but left her high and dry when shit got to popping, just like she did Apollo. I believe Angela now. Its just a repeat. So if I were Kandi, I’ll keep my distance too. Phaedra is dirty as hell. And she have some skeletons in her closet. Shit Kandi have her on damn problems, then to be worrying about Phardra’s. Kandi know more then she is saying because Apollo may have told it all. Have any one though about that? Maybe that’s why she’s keeping her distance. fuck what you talking about Kandi have a brand and she don’t need to be associating her with that damn drama.

  • Davis, A.O.

    Wow, this is funny. Both of these woman have their own issues. Just because they are friends do not mean they have to share everything. Goodness! Everyone process things differently. Kandi my not know how to comfort her friend through this type of situation. Nene and the other female has been throught divorce and my know how to console this female. No additionally they are about that drama right now and Kandi is not.

    I do not believe Kandi was spilt about the issue about the text message. Remember we are only relieving a portion of the issue. Kandi knows her friend and how she wants to address her. Phrada is extremely private about her personally life and Kandi respects that. And would you call your friend with half of the information or would you sit there with your spouse and friend husband and receive all the tea before approaching.

    I believe everyone is expecting this woman to be super lady when she is only human.
    She did just disappoint steam of people she her play got cancel. She was upset about that. Can you imagine fords closing shop without being able to pay folks sevants. It’s hard to endure.
    Next, she is having troubles in her owe house. Now how is she suppose to hold someone else down.

  • lele

    Ksndi I am so over you and especially your crying, stop being jealous of someone else because you wasn’t there for her as a friend. Go somewhere and cry what you do best, you know good and damn well you couldn’t wait until Dr.Jeff asked you a question about Nene so you could have said that shit ,you already wanted to say that because she befriended Phaedra I sniff some jealousy that’s exactly what it is

  • Macara Underwood

    I’m looking forward to this coming Sunday’s episode. I feel you on this one so much! I don’t think she should be telling other people she feels some type of way without even speaking to you. We all have our issues, and everyone’s view of what a “good” friend is might be different. You can never know what people’s expectations are unless it is communicated. I think Phaedra was unfair, not unfounded in her feelings (as no one’s feelings should be discounted), but unfair to put that on you and tell others without first talking to you.

  • Sue

    I just don’t understand how Kandi didn’t see that her friend was hurting. She is your friend! When Apollo came to her home talking about Mr. Chocolate, the first thing she should have done is call phardrA! OMG, it’s not rocket science.

  • crazedwriter

    Does anyone know where kandi got her headband and that white chrocheted dress that she is wearing in a group picture the ROA gals took in the Philippines?

  • crazedwriter

    here’s the pic